When You Will Never See People Again
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(Original post by Fried Butter)
If you're religious it's much easier.
If not face reality. They're gone. That's it. They're never coming back. If they could tell you what to do, they would certainly not ask you to waste your life doting on their memory but move on. You could be missing out on so many great opportunities in the time you waste dreaming about them. The next love of your life. Your dream job. Don't be a chump. Plenty of people have **** happening to them. Don't let it get to you!
Unfortunately I'm not religious, though I'd like to believe there was something else out there, more now than ever. He was, though.
I know you're right, I just don't want to let go yet. It only happened a few days ago and I'm currently arranging a memorial celebration of his life...surely there's nothing wrong with doing that first?
Weirdly enough, he'd already told me what to do, and exactly how to cope should this happen 
(Original post by Anonymous)
Unfortunately I'm not religious, though I'd like to believe there was something else out there, more now than ever. He was, though.
I know you're right, I just don't want to let go yet. It only happened a few days ago and I'm currently arranging a memorial celebration of his life...surely there's nothing wrong with doing that first?
Weirdly enough, he'd already told me what to do, and exactly how to cope should this happen
What actually happened? PM me if it's too 'private'
(Original post by Fried Butter)
What actually happened? PM me if it's too 'private'
I'll say it here, it's just reality...he drowned. He was generally fit and a good swimmer, but the distance was too much, he was exhausted, and just went down and never came back up again.
Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened!
I know how you feel (didnt die though, just moved really far)
You honestly just have to accept it and always keep the thought that there is still somebody out there for me.
Hope is not lost, theres billions of girls in the world and who knows you may end up with someone much better 
. Its hard to let go, but once you do its so relieving.
Sorry about your loss
(Original post by Anonymous)
I'll say it here, it's just reality...he drowned. He was generally fit and a good swimmer, but the distance was too much, he was exhausted, and just went down and never came back up again.
WOW. That is really awful. How old are you? How long were you together?
(Original post by lovely_me)
Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened!
Short and sweet and true 
(Original post by HumanNature1992)
I know how you feel (didnt die though, just moved really far)
You honestly just have to accept it and always keep the thought that there is still somebody out there for me.
Hope is not lost, theres billions of girls in the world and who knows you may end up with someone much better . Its hard to let go, but once you do its so relieving.
Sorry about your loss
It's not just about not having him in my life - it's the actual thought of his life being over.
I don't think I'd find someone better, just different. I'd been lucky enough to experience love before, but this time around wasn't like the rest of them - I felt he was the one for me. Alright, life is unexpected(as proven) but I feel like he is one person out of the many in the world that I could have been so very happy with for the rest of my days.
Thank you
(Original post by Anonymous)
It's not just about not having him in my life - it's the actual thought of his life being over.
I don't think I'd find someone better, just different. I'd been lucky enough to experience love before, but this time around wasn't like the rest of them - I felt he was the one for me. Alright, life is unexpected(as proven) but I feel like he is one person out of the many in the world that I could have been so very happy with for the rest of my days.
Thank you
Oh man, i'm so sorry
Like somebody said ^^, reminise about all those amazing times that you've had together and even though he's gone, at least you got to share your life with him even though it was tragically cut short. He'll always have a special place in your heart - and also as somebody said this isnt the end of it, being religious gives me hope and you'll see him again.
Its very difficult for me to tell you how to deal with this situation as I havent been in the same circumstance. Maybe talk to somebody that has, for some closure - and see how they moved on with their life and try do the same, he'd want that for you
I just hope you know that when something like this happens instead of giving up you better be living your life not only for you but FOR THEM aswell.
Don't know. Girl I've loved for the last 5 years got married 2 weeks back. Usually just try not to think about it.
Wow.
Im so sorry for you lost OP.
That's sad, you know, i've been thinking about this stuff for so long, if you read one of my threads regarding about the safety of my loved ones when i go to UNI.
It makes me depressed everyday if something like this happen to one of my loved ones.
I dont know if i'll survive or just end my life to not deal with the pain.
But anyways, i almost lost my man once, i thought i'll die because all i think is that he's gone and he will never come back, i suffered from depression, didn't eat anything at all, i would only eat a lil but drink more. I spend the whole 5-8 months working and going home (sleeping the whole time until i work the next day) until i realise it doesn't hurt that much anymore, and as soon as i found something to do, like surf the internet (hehe) i would go home talk to friends online and paint on my laptop. My mind was not set on him anymore, and that's when i realised that i wanted to go to school over there in UK.
As soon as i move on with my life and start doing the research about going there, out of nowhere my bf came up and now were together. it's different from you story, but for some part its kinda the same. :P
Good luck!
xx
(Original post by JmJtr)
I just hope you know that when something like this happens instead of giving up you better be living your life not only for you but FOR THEM aswell.
He had so much belief me...an unconditional love and support, so I'm determined to make him prouder than ever before. It's just that whenever something like this happens, he's the first one I turn to - he's so full of wisdom, always knows what to do/say. I don't want to live without him
I'm really upset again, but strangely when I first woke up this morning I didn't cry for the first time, just felt bewildered - at how something as stupid as what happened(he should never have tried to swim that distance he might have known he potentially wouldn't make) - anger at how something so small could result in something so big. I just thought 'what an idiot.' Which isn't fair obviously...I think because he was such a strong person I'd thought him invincible. Whenever something happened & he pulled me through it, he'd never let me thank him - 'no, don't thank me - it was all you', telling me how strong I was all on my own.
Thinking about it, I think he has made me stronger...but I just wanted to be stronger with him, never on my own. Never. He's made my life so much happier, and I know people will say I'll find something like this again...but that's very hard to believe. Like I say I'd been in love before, but I thought this would go the distance 
Let's face it, maybe I won't find it again?
I guess it gets better with time. I live in the hope that I'll see the one I love next year.. but it seems forever.
Imagine the person struggling on the toilet or studying his toilet paper before flushing it down. Helps a little.
But seriously, I've been in the same situation. Or I am, to be precise. When you're young, it'll be easier to find things to distract yourself. First step to that is to face reality, and say to yourself that if there is no possibility you'll be together, the only thing to do is to get over it (which is my problem, because he never rejected me, I just don't know if he sincerely likes me more than physically, and can't bring myself to ask).
I know it's hard to realize, but there are so many people on this planet, there are several others with the same skills as he has, who'd offer you the same support and love, and the real accident would be for you to be so hung up in this situation, you'll never get out to meet them.
(Original post by Anonymous)
He had so much belief me...an unconditional love and support, so I'm determined to make him prouder than ever before. It's just that whenever something like this happens, he's the first one I turn to - he's so full of wisdom, always knows what to do/say. I don't want to live without him
I'm really upset again, but strangely when I first woke up this morning I didn't cry for the first time, just felt bewildered - at how something as stupid as what happened(he should never have tried to swim that distance he might have known he potentially wouldn't make) - anger at how something so small could result in something so big. I just thought 'what an idiot.' Which isn't fair obviously...I think because he was such a strong person I'd thought him invincible. Whenever something happened & he pulled me through it, he'd never let me thank him - 'no, don't thank me - it was all you', telling me how strong I was all on my own.
Thinking about it, I think he has made me stronger...but I just wanted to be stronger with him, never on my own. Never. He's made my life so much happier, and I know people will say I'll find something like this again...but that's very hard to believe. Like I say I'd been in love before, but I thought this would go the distance Let's face it, maybe I won't find it again?
I honestly can't even say I know how feel but yeah it is possible that you may never find that again but I would say very unlikely. (There are 6 billion people in the world + I dont beleive there is only one person for everyone).
I can probably understand that you may feel anger at times and other times sadness etc but always try and remeber that your actually quite lucky because some people never find what you had in their entire lives.
Atleast you have all the memories and something to look back on
my doctor prescribed me with some heavy duty herbal help and some women! but time is probably better. you wont ever forget, just learn to move on and maybe find somone else.
Hey, I just lost my girlfriend of 2 years this week, after always being sure we'd spend our lives together. I've no idea how to cope with it and I just keep thinking she's gonna come back to me, but she's made it very clear to me that she won't.
I know it's a lot different to a loved one dying, but at the moment I'm still grieving like it. Haven't got out of bed or eaten for 3 days.
I know time will make it better, but time will also help her move on to other guys (we were each other's first everything), which is really gonna hurt a lot more.
(Original post by Land-based mammal)
is that true, have you experienced that?
I just make myself forget
But if you re-remember
It will all come back to you
++ I am a very emotional person
Ergh. Thanks op, I now have knots in my stomach. 
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